Battle of the Mind – Overcoming Negative Thoughts

This story begins on June 30, 2013 when I discovered a lump in my left breast. That day has changed my life forever – some ways good, some ways not so good. If you would like to read the journey about my battle with breast cancer from the beginning, click here.

If you only want to read the post right before this one, click here.

Fighting the Battle of the Mind

Overcoming Negative Thoughts

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.”  ― Lao Tzu

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We all have demons to fight when it comes to our thought processes.

The afternoon after I received my diagnosis, I decided to purchase a juicer to begin my fight. Since I had already made up my mind not to use chemo or radiation, I knew that nutrition (food) was going to have to be one of the methods I would need to utilize in order to beat cancer. I put it in the shopping cart, and proceeded to the checkout. It was here that despair reared its ugly head for the first time.

When the cashier asked me if I wanted to extend the warranty for two years, the first thought that popped into my head was, “No, why would I want to do that? I won’t even be alive then.” I commanded the thought to leave my mind and immediately told myself that I had to remain positive in order to win this fight.

Later that night, as I lay in bed loving on my cats and dogs, another ugly thought surfaced out of nowhere, “I am supposed to outlive all of you, but I probably won’t.” Again, I had to admonish my thoughts and remind myself that the battle had just begun and was not anywhere near over. Not only was I going to outlive all of them, but I would have others to outlive as well. Longevity runs in my family. Cancer does not.

These are not the last thoughts I would have to battle into submission, they were just the first. And I remember them so well because I typically do not have a defeatist attitude. They both shocked and scared me … Since I am only human, I’m pretty sure there will be many more in the future. The big thing I have to remember when I find myself fighting these types of thoughts is this … I cannot control the thoughts that pop into my head, but I can control what I do with and about them. More than anything else, I will not give them power over me by voicing them.

Overcoming Negative Thoughts

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The mind is powerful – we can use it to build ourselves up, or allow it to destroy us.

I can do this! And so can you!

If you find yourself in a battle such as cancer or any other major disease or any other difficulty in life, and you find yourself battling negative thoughts … and you will … don’t give in to them … do not give them a permanent foothold in your thought processes. Negative thoughts will not help you win the battle so you must fight them.

If you find yourself battling not so happy thoughts, check out the links below to help deal with and control those nasty negative thoughts.

  • What is Positive Thinking“What exactly is positive thinking and how can it be used to improve health and wellness?”
  • 10 Tips to Overcome Negative Thoughts, Positive Thinking Made Easy – This post shares, “Negative thoughts drain you of energy and keep you from being in the present moment. The more you give in to your negative thoughts, the stronger they become … [like] a small ball rolling along the ground, and as it rolls, it becomes bigger and faster. That’s what one small negative thought can turn into: a huge, speeding ball of ugliness. On the contrary, a small positive thought can have the same effect blossoming into a beautiful outcome.” Click on the link to learn more about how to overcome those negative thoughts.
  • 83 Positive Thoughts for the Day – a great list of positive thoughts to provoke positive thoughtfulness.
  • The Bible – I personally find comfort in God’s Word and the provisions He has provided for me and anyone else who turns to Him for help. Two good versions on the internet that I enjoy using are: Bible Gateway and You Version.

The following Bible verses, Psalm 55: 4-5, 16-18a, fit in so well with how I was feeling that day. It is comforting to know that I can call upon God to help me overcome all aspects of this disease from the thoughts it tries to force upon me, to the very disease itself. I do not have to fight this battle alone.

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Some people, including myself, find hope, comfort and inspiration from the promises found in the Bible.

My heart is in anguish within me,
And the terrors of death have fallen upon me.
Fear and trembling come upon me,
And horror has overwhelmed me.
As for me, I shall call upon God,
And the Lord will save me.
Evening and morning and at noon, I will complain and murmur,
And He will hear my voice.
He will redeem my soul in peace from the battle which is against me.

We all struggle from time to time with thoughts that hijack us; therefore, a diagnosis such as cancer is bound to have an impact on our thought processes. It’s just normal!

Click here to read the next post in my cancer journey.

If you have found other great ways to control your thoughts, please share them below. I look forward to learning more about this and having more tools available for use in my own toolbox!

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Comments

Battle of the Mind – Overcoming Negative Thoughts — 14 Comments

    • Thanks, Debbie! I appreciate the shares. That is why I am documenting this journey – hopefully it will help someone else who finds themselves where I am.

  1. Cindy – I expect a good, mean fight to beat that most insidious of enemies: cancer. Do EVERYTHING you can: research, go with what’s best for you, and kick it to the curb. We are here cheerleading for you and we’re in this fight with you. You have our positive thoughts and light; never, ever stop believing. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

    • Thanks, Cyndi! Some days I really need my cheerleaders …. and I so appreciate them. I do plan on kicking this thing further than the curb! Blessings to you!

  2. Cindy, I wish you well on this journey, and I feel confident that you will get through this. As I’ve said before, my mother had breast cancer over 25 years ago, and after surgery had no recurrence. The only medication she took was Tamoxifen, an anti-oestrogen drug, and she didn’t have radiotherapy. Because the cancer was removed by surgery the doctors didn’t see the need.

    You ask about ways to overcome negative thoughts. What I do may seem strange, but when I find myself trying to fight or push away these kinds of thoughts or feelings, I actually welcome them instead. (Sometimes I think of them as small children who are upset and needing love and attention.) This changes the energy to one of peace and acceptance, and the thoughts ease by themselves. Especially with feelings it can be an instant release.
    This doesn’t mean I won’t feel these feelings or have the thoughts ever again, but they to become less frequent and less intense – the difference it has made in my life is huge. Or sometimes when things seem a bit more stuck and the feelings or thoughts return frequently, I see them like a small child with a message for me, and so it’s then easier to be kind to the thoughts without giving in to them. For instance, the thoughts that you won’t outlive your cats – if that was a small child she could be meaning: “I need someone to look after me, and care for me like you do those cats.”

    It’s so much the standard thing for us to not love ourselves, and yet love is so healing.

    Take a look on the blog I’ve linked to here at the posts on self-compassion and on beliefs or on try the method my daughter devised in this post: http://inquiringparent.com/2011/08/so-simple-a-child-can-teach-it/

    Sending love and healing thoughts to you.

    • Thanks, Yvonne! I have never heard of nurturing those feelings to make them go away. That is very interesting. I will check out your daughter’s post as well. Thanks so much for being a great friend … separated by the “pond”.

      • You’re welcome Cindy. I also realised that I should have said that’s my other blog that I linked to. I write about anything and everything that has helped me to move from beating myself up at every turn and frequent low-grade depression to feeling generally happy. It’s still a work-in-progress, but oh what a difference!

  3. Cindy,

    You are such a Blessing in so many ways ! You are an inspiration as you continue to allow the Lord to work in your life and you take each day making the most…

    doing things that will encourage, strengthen and educate others.
    Love you my friend!

    Malika

    • Thanks, Malika! It is friends like you that encourage me, and hug me, and love on me that help me make it through each day. Everyone has been so wonderful. Blessings to you.

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